THE scary season is looming and I’m not necessarily talking about things that go bump in the night.

Increasing living costs are a cause of stress and worry for many. It feels like a visit to the supermarket leaves a larger dent in bank balances on a regular basis. Cautionary phrases such as eat or heat are hardly helpful in dampening concerns.

Financial constraints are accepted as a cause of anxiety and low mood. There can be an inclination to ignore money problems in the hope they will remedy themselves, however this does little to stop the attached feelings. We live in a culture where the tendency is to refer to there being others worse off and indeed there are, but this does little to change our circumstances and it is not always possible to focus on what we do have.

Being consumed by money worries and a desire to provide for loved ones can feel overwhelming, which can prompt being so preoccupied that we emotionally detach from those close to us. Granted we need bread and butter, but we need connected, loving relationships in order to thrive.

It is easy to presume we are alone in feeling the pressure, but everyone is affected to some degree. There is power in having a full grasp of where finances are at, even if there is not enough to cut your cloth. Contacting energy providers or organisations providing support can provide a sense of control. People are pledging to avoid exchanging gifts this year, which seems like a sensible decision. Christmas is an expensive time of year aside from the cost-of-living crisis.

If the pandemic and lockdowns taught us anything, it is that being close to friends and family is what is important. Pulling together and pooling resources can be a positive way forward for all, but solutions can only be found when we share our worries instead of sitting on them.

  • This month’s health and lifestyle column from Corinne Yeadon, of the Being Better private therapy practice in Skipton